Be who you are

No human being is perfect though it is said that practice makes a man perfect. Every human being is different and distinct in an own way. No two human beings can be same both mentally and physically. Every human being has a distinct feature. The way a person act, work, think and react is some how different from others though there are still some sorts of commonalities among human beings. Hence, every single person on this planet is unique and dissimilar in an individual way. That may be the reason one can not be the replica of another person completely. It is natural that people become impressed from their significant others. However, how hard might a person wish to be the same person as the significant others, those dreams can never be fulfilled entirely. These might be easily possible in fairy tales and some fiction stories but not in reality.
I always dream of having some virtues which my friends possess. To make it come true, I tried many times and also, gave up repeatedly. Sometimes, I become green-eyed not having such desirable qualities with me. I wonder and ponder why I do not possess that excellence for what my friends are bestowed with. I had so many of friends who were really good at memorizing all the questions and answers from top to bottom without even missing a single word though it is not practical all the time. I happened to feel bad when I could not learn by heart like them for the exams. I used to be disappointed and frustrated many more times not having memory power like my friends. I was the only person whose exam answers used to be completely different from the class mates since I always tried to write the answers in my own way. During my school time, I was compelled to believe that the more you are good at memorizing, the more you are good at your study. But I still remember one of my teachers suggesting me to keep it up in writing answers in my own way being creative and constructive. He encouraged me not to learn by heart like my friends and suggested me to keep doing what I had been doing. Since then I completely gave up memorizing the text answers line by line and word by word. Instead, I focused in understanding the contexts which was encouraged by my teachers.
Every coin has two sides. The habit of ignoring the practice of memorizing the notes in the past left me far behind. I lose my patience whenever I have to memorize something especially during the exam time. I become so nervous that I can not even memorize few lines though I can make sense of the context. This side effect can be noticed with me specially when I sit down with my friends and start singing. Unless I look at the lyrics, I can not sing a complete song since I can not remember the lyrics of any song except few songs. I feel myself like dumb especially when I am with “Antakshari” group though I enjoy being a part of such amusing group. Similarly, I always have hard time in remembering the names of the movies and filmy characters and it does not really matter even if I have watched the same movie over and over. In addition to this, I am also worst in recalling the title songs and name of the artists.
So far, it has not been a real problem in my career and personal life for being absent minded in context to the songs and movies. What ever my friends are attributed with and what ever my weakness is, the fact is that I can not be the person who I am not. Therefore, I enjoy being who I am since it is not worth wasting time regretting for what one does not have.

The grass is greener on the other side

"The Grass is greener on the other side"

I have seen many of my friends who are not satisfied with their profession. I have heard much dissatisfaction from their mouths about their occupation. Clouds of discontent have overshadowed their faces. I have also noticed that they were the happiest ones when they first got into their line of work. One of my friends went through so much frustration when he had to be jobless for several months though he tried so hard not leaving any stone unturned. He went through depression and almost lost his hope of being employed in Nepal. He regretted for coming back to Nepal after he graduated from the American university. I still remember him telling me that he should have stayed in the US doing some entry level jobs rather than being unemployed in Nepal. Eventually, before he lost his final hope, his untiring job hunting quest paid him back and got a nice job which he liked very much. He was so much enthralled and excited that he threw a big party to his closest friends including me. His family members and friends were so glad to see him getting a reputable and well paid job. This unexpected success made him think that everything happens for a good reason. He comforted himself saying that he got to stay unemployed for so many months because the best job had been waiting for him. He then started telling other friends not to lose hope at any difficult situation and suggested friends to be optimistic in life. “Life could be prickly and thorny but one needs to know how to do away with prickly thorns on the way,” says he. Once he got the job, he became the man of dreamer. Sense of confidence and contentment got developed with him day by day. The lines of pessimism have gotten rid of his face. He wished he could always be like that.
It has been almost a year since he began his first job after his graduation. Now, I notice that he is no more the same person. It is said that everything changes with time; so is he. Within a year he has already changed his job more than twice. Soon, he no more likes his recent work and thinks that he got stuck with it. Dissatisfaction and displeasure reclaimed in his life. He complains that he got bored of working with new environment and therefore, expects to have a nice break. At present, he regrets quitting his earlier job. He did not realize the importance of his previous job until he lost it. He forgot his ‘self’ and tried finding ‘others’ in him comparing himself more with others. He found the grass on the other side greener. Losing his patience, he failed to bear in mind that other people (as he does) notice the grass on his side greener. His friends still think that he is marching ahead on his career path so well that they dream of following his foot steps. Contrary to what others think about him, he saw the half water filled glass as half emptied.
It is always good to be ambitious and think of better options in life since it is one of the encouraging parts in human lives. Many of the times, this leads to the path of success. However, happiness and satisfaction needs to be discovered within the self since it is veiled within the person. My friend has a dream but his haste turned out to be waste. He became a rolling stone which could not gather moss. I hope my friend will discover happiness soon and notice the grass on his side greener.